1. We must be convinced that the world’s system for evaluating self-worth is a lie. God estimates worth and value on His own love towards us.  GOD LOVES US, SIMPLY BECAUSE HE LOVES US.  He chooses to love us and went to the cross of Calvary, shedding His own blood for our sins.  We…

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ABANDONMENT: When Parents lovingly adopt a child and provide a nurturing environment, care, protection, and exercise of family togetherness, they are often bewildered that their child does not reciprocate their thankfulness and love back to them. The child, in some cases, will exhibit anger, defiance, or even depression.  In many cases, low self-image is the…

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Those with a disorganized attachment style do not believe that they are worthy of love or capable of obtaining love from others.   They do not believe that they can trust others to be safe as attachment figures.  Behavior can become very erratic with no solid behavior response. What we need to note here is that …

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Those with avoidant attachment styles believe that they are worthy of love and able to obtain it, but, do not view others as safe attachment figures. While unable to place trust in others, they will trust only themselves, get their needs met though performance, and attach superficially.  This is where parents will often categorize their…

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Unlike the Secure Attacher who readily feel worthy of love, those with ambivalent attachment styles do not believe they are worthy of the love and the support of others unless they perform adequately to deserve that love.  Ambivalent attachers view others as safe and trustworthy to provide a safe haven for them, so they will…

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One of our deepest needs is to be loved.  Most of our conflicts in our attempts to be loved are problems with attachment, and the answer to our attachment problems is faith.  I wish to present Biblical models of four specific Attachment styles of life.  This will be discussed in several posts. As posted earlier,…

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Definition By Mayo Clinic Staff Reactive attachment disorder is a rare but serious condition in which an infant or young child doesn’t establish healthy attachments with parents or caregivers. Reactive attachment disorder may develop if the child’s basic needs for comfort, affection and nurturing aren’t met and loving, caring, stable attachments with others are not…

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  Four basic attachment styles have been identified through observing the reactions of young children.  Although the child’s style can change due to new experiences and psychological development, they usually provide the general framework for relationships throughout the child’s life.                  1.  The Secure Attachment Style.  These children view themselves as worthy of love…

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Integral to the concept of love is attachment.  However, the emotion of love is actually just part of our attachment system that includes the biological components of attachment such as sexual and non-sexual touch as well as the emotions of love and the closeness of intimacy.  Attachment adds strength to close or intimate relationships.  However,…

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