A very heavy thing to deal with is feeling like our own children do not love us. We love them, and so we provide, protect, and sometimes “pamper” our children with gifts. It seems the more we love and extend our love to them, the less we are loved. Or at least that is the way it seems.
I. First of all, love is a choice. No matter what we do, or how much we do, our children must choose to love us. There are parents who choose not to love their children. They have become bitter, and resentful toward their children. If you are reading this article, this is most likely not you. You love your children, but, feel as though they are not loving you back. Just as you choose to love them, you should not be looking for love as a reciprocal to be received them. Love them, because you love them.
II. Secondly, Love is not enough. We have heard of parents who lavish their children with things, and financial gifts in an attempt to show that they love them. Gift giving, liberty granting, freedom extended to them, may not be the best way to show you love them.
Here are things to consider that could establish love back in your home:
1. Invest time with your teen, just letting them talk to you. Not just asking them how their day at school was, but, really develop a place where you and your daughter, or you and your son can go alone and just let him talk.
2. Invest time as a family in worship of God, and Family Altar.
a. Genesis 22:5, “And Abraham said unto his young men, Abide ye here with the ass; and I and the lad will go yonder and worship, and come again to you.”
b. Exodus 10:8, 9, “And Moses and Aaron were brought again unto Pharaoh: and he said unto them, Go, serve the LORD your God: but who are they that shall go?
And Moses said, We will go with our young and with our old, with our sons and with our daughters, with our flocks and with our herds will we go; for we must hold a feast unto the LORD.”
Develop worship of God with your children/teens/family. In an upcoming Article, I will discuss how to establish a Family Altar.
3. Invest time knowing God
If you personally do not know Jesus as your personal LORD and Saviour, you cannot know love.
a. 1 John 4:16, “And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.”
You can know Christ Jesus as your personal Saviour if you will come to Him in Repentance toward God and Faith toward our Lord Jesus Christ. He will in no wise cast you out. Once you accept Christ as your Saviour, you will know Love. God is Love. If you do not know God, you do not know Love!
b. 1 John 4:8, “He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.”
This may be the reason your child or teen does not love. They may not know Christ as their Saviour.
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